Once again, it’s two days before Christmas and the holiday has snuck up on me, despite my Christmas spirit. I’m spending the day finishing up two knitted gifts and then perhaps I will do some wrapping and/or mailing of Christmas cards (yep, that’s me, the Christmas card procrastinator). Work will be relatively light tomorrow so I’ll have time to wrap once I’m back home as well. I’m somewhat tired and melancholy today. Not for any reason than Christmas is already upon us… rush rush rush and it’s over in 5 minutes. That part makes me sad.
Perhaps I’ve had too much coffee this morning and/or not enough sleep but here’s a random question for the day that has nothing to do with Christmas or the New Year:
Don’t you think that it’s better to be happy with your life and find someone that fits into that life rather than to find a way to make your life fit someone else?
Hmmm. Ponderings for your Christmas weekend.
What an existential question…
I’m not sure what the right answer is. I met my husband when we were just 20. Now that we have grown up a bit, it can be challenging to stay connected and make sure that our interests don’t diverge too much.
I don’t suppose there is a right answer. I think to clarify, I mean to say when a person is “looking” for someone to spend an inordinate amount of time with in a committed way, is it better to a) already be happy where you are in life and find someone that fits or b) reorganize, reshape your life to fit someone else and their life?
Interesting question. I suppose that yes, you want to be happy with your life, and find someone who compliments it. But the person you find should be in the same place, which then means that you both need to do small amounts of compromising in order to then fit nicely into each other’s lives. Which should be a happy process, when it’s the right person.
I don’t think you can totally have ‘A’, because if you did, then I should think the person you found might be doing ‘B’ for you.
I think when you find a life partner, there is always going to be some change, but the hope is it’s in a good way. Neither person should have to fundamentally change their life, and neither should change who they are at all, and when you find someone who fits, then I think you’re very lucky. If you need to change who you are to make something work, then move along.
That my 2 cents!
I’m a horrid procrastinator. I hope you have a wonderful holiday!
I’m a teacher so procrasinating is my middle name. Shopping for Christmas has been no different.
As far as your question, I like what Annie said. When in a committed relationship there is always going to be change and compromise otherwise you just have two individuals doing their own thing.
I agree that you MUST be happy with where you are in life. That has to be a constant. Using words like “fit in” and “reorganize” and “reshape” can be seen as negative words when talking about spending time with a significant other and allowing them into your life.
In my current relationship, I make sure that I continue to do the things that are important to me (with me, running; with you, knitting). Don’t compromise who you are and as the relationship progresses you will find natural areas with each other where you mesh seamlessly. The more you mesh, the more you know you’ve found a good guy.
Ha, just my two cents.